Your husband walked into a Suffolk County hospital for what was supposed to be a routine neurosurgical procedure. He left with a massive intracranial hemorrhage, weeks in the ICU, and a brain that no longer recognizes the children in your living-room photos. The hospital says he's "medically stable." The home health agency keeps asking when his aide hours can be cut. You're trying to plan for the next thirty years of nursing, therapy, and seizure medication, but no one will t